How To Date a Stripper or Topless/Exotic Dancer - article:0623 03/05/2007
I'm 50 years old. I'm not rich. Live in a small, 2-bedroom condo. Drive a 2001 SUV. Only average looking in appearance. And yet...
She was not a model, or a movie star. She was a stripper, and she was more than thrilled to be there - and better yet - she was thrilled to be there with me.
Dating a stripper can be done, I promise you. And NOT by spending a ton of money or "renting" her for the evening - if you know what I mean. I'm talking about real dates and wherever that naturally leads. And it can lead to some pretty interesting evenings!
“Last year my good friend Wills and I exchanged our “100 Things to Do Before I Die” lists. On my list, item #67 is “Date a stripper.” When Wills confessed to have dated a series of strippers and topless dancers, I wanted to know how the hell he was doing it. It actually took him a while to figure it out, but once I started doing the things he had been doing, I got dates too - I’m still amazed!”
RLB - Seattle
Other friends started asking me the same thing and I sent them the emails too. So with some input from them, other girls, and a few online friends, the whole thing grew into a book. Again, I didn't start out to write a book about dating topless dancers. But when I saw this method work over and over again and kept getting questions about it, I thought... why not!
So here you go... this is what I did, this is what my friends did, and somehow we stumbled through it and made it work. We are a pretty normal bunch, not rocket scientists (well OK, one guy did work for NASA a bit) and certainly not "playas." If we can do it, so can you.
Get ready for a wild ride!
So, you want to date a stripper? Don't feel like some kind of pervert, almost every guy I know has either dated one, or fantasized about dating one. If for no other reason that to cross it off the, "things I must do before I die," list. Besides, what's not to like?
So who can blame you? I'm right there with you This is all based on my experiences dating strippers and topless dancers that I have met in the club and dated by following the simple techniques that anyone can learn.
And if you happen to be curious, yes, over the last few years I have read the books out there about dating dancers and in most places I completely, 100%, disagree with the advice given. Do what those books say and you will never see a girl outside the club and they will look at you as just another loser customer.
I've been around them for long enough now to hear how they talk about their customers, and it's not nice. It's not always mean, but in the last five years of being around strippers I was dating, and their dancer friends, I have never heard any of them say anything even remotely close to, "Wow, that customer I had last night was such a great guy, I wish he would ask me out." Not even close. The killer word there is "customer." As long as the girls see you as just another loser customer, you will never get anywhere. I don't care how many drinks you buy, or if you send flowers to the club, or spend thousands in the VIP room. You will still be a customer. You are a valued source of income. If you try and see her outside the club, she will politely say no. If you push it, she will probably get a restraining order. Trust me, she knows how. She's had to do it before.
"Aw baby, that's sweet, but I don' go out with customers. I could lose my job." Go ahead and ask her out and you will hear something like that. Maybe even word-for-word. They learn it quickly and spit it out without really even considering your offer. And the more you spend, the more impossible it becomes for her to see you. She hates feeling obligated, cheap, and trashy. Bought and paid for.
The trick is not to be a customer, but to be an insider. While they will never say, "I hope that customer comes back in and asks me out," I have often watched them make subtle mental shift and say, "Wow, I hope that friend of Tina's (the bartender) comes back this week. Maybe we can go out to breakfast." That's what I taught my friends to do and can teach you to do as well. Unless you are very rich or very good-looking, it's the only way.
If you think you ARE that good looking, give it a test. Go to a club and pick out a girl. Talk to her, laugh, charm her, buy her a drink, and one dance. Then leave. If she lets you leave without her phone number it's a bad sign. If you go back a second time without her either giving you her number, or taking you back to the VIP area for free, then you are not good-looking enough. Not many men are.
This does not mean that you are not good looking enough for her to go out with, just that you are not good looking enough to get her on sheer looks alone. If she gets to know, trust, and like you, then maybe, but only if you are in on the joke as an insider.
You have to get to be seen as an insider; someone who is in on the scam, a friend of the club. And you don't have to take my word for it. There is a stripper name Tara that has an ongoing diary on Yahoo.
This is her take on how to date a stripper:
April 21, 2001
Tara's law: The guy a girl sees most frequently is most likely to date her.
I watch the young strippers flirt with the bouncers, DJ's and managers and realize that these men are the only ones they see regularly. Of course they're all dating strippers.
I've observed this phenomenon before. Women don't go out and look for men, especially beautiful women. They wait for men to come to them. However in the case of strippers, they are flooded with men, most of whom they never see again. The only ones they see consistently are the employees of the clubs and perhaps the sales people at the places they shop for costumes.
If you want to date a stripper, work at a club or better yet, own one.
I'm going to show you how to become an insider like the ones she describes without having to actually work at a club. Now if you are so inclined and want to work at a strip club, well knock yourself out. You won't need the rest of this article. But jobs for guys are limited at a club. Sure they need bouncers, but that's probably not you. Most don't use male bartenders, so that usually leaves only bar backs, parking lot guys, cooks, and dishwashers. Nah, doesn't sound like fun to me either.
Believe it or not, if you present yourself in the right way, there's a good chance that you will get a dancer to go out with you. Here's why:
It all comes down to a very simple statement and idea - You have to become the kind of man she wants to go out with. It's that simple. She is used to getting her way, and has a nice fantasy in her head about the kind of man she wants to date. You just have to become some version of that guy. She has a long list of things she knows she wants, but she also has an unconscious list of things she wants that she is not even aware of and could probably not verbalize. It's the only way to explain the difference between what she says she wants and what she actually winds up with.
I've known quite a few strippers and very, very few actually date the kind of guy the say they are looking for. So why do they go out with these guys who are obviously Mr. Not-Even-Close-To-Right?
I've had this exact conversation with a very close dancer friend. She has a great list things she wants in a guy: handsome, smart, businessman, funny, treats her well, etc. But when she gave me that list, she was actively dating a sales rep from a liquor company who had the club as an account. He was none of the things on the list. Well, he was sort of good looking, or at least had been about 10 years ago. But he was around a couple of times a week and knew everyone at the club. Over a period of time they became friends and one thing eventually led to another. See, the most important thing was that he was an insider. He understood her business, knew what he was getting into, and was probably not going to give her a hard time about it. So because he was an insider, the rest of the list went out the window.
For most girls at the club, the worst part of dating is telling the new boyfriend that she strips. She hates how that makes her feel. She has had this conversation before and she knows how it goes - badly. So when a decent guy comes along that already knows she strips and doesn't seem to care, then he scores a lot of subconscious points. She knows at least she won't have to have that conversation. This gives you a huge, unfair advantage!
First, let me make this clear. You can do this. It's not as hard as it sounds but it's not going to happen over night. You may currently feel pretty intimidated by the atmosphere and girls at a club, but if with some planning, in a little bit of time, you won't even notice the naked women. Well that might be an exaggeration, but it certainly will be no big deal.
So, how do you become an insider? It's a matter of:
Just think about your own business. Whatever you do for a living, you are an insider in that world. You know what is going on with the business, how it works, what the issues are, and how to speak the lingo. You could have a conversation with another insider and an outsider would probably miss half of it because they would have no context for the new words, phrases, or names. It's the same for a strip club. Yes, no two clubs are exactly the same just as no two banks or shipping companies are the same. But they do have a lot in common, and the differences are what makes for interesting conversation when two insiders meet.
I can show you how to be an insider just like I did for my friends. We emailed back and forth for so long that when I looked back, it was all written down. I spent a few days putting it together then ran it past a few girls I know. They hated the first draft. So I re-wrote and re-wrote till I found a happy medium between what I like and what they liked. It's as close to being objective as I can possibly make it. It's actually painful for some of the girls to read because they see themselves a little too clearly! But not one of them said it would not work. They had seen it, a lived it, many times.
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